Bridging Cultures, Breaking Barriers
On April 21st, Indonesia lights up in celebration of Kartini Day, honoring a true pioneer, Raden Adjeng Kartini. This remarkable woman didn't just push the envelope; she tore it wide open, advocating for women's rights and education at a time when such ideas were more than just radical—they were revolutionary. Born into the echelons of Javanese nobility, Kartini saw beyond her gilded cage, dreaming of a world where women could stand tall, educated, and free.
So in honor of Kartini, I am talking to another strong and resilient woman. Her name is Carol. She's a friend from Brazil, living in Singapore with her husband and their two sons. Our paths crossed because our kids go to the same school, and let me tell you, Carol is the embodiment of strength and resilience. Moving countries is no small feat—dealing with a new culture, language barriers, and raising a family, all while miles away from your support network, requires courage that's nothing short of inspiring.
But Carol's story has another layer. One of her sons, Noah, was born with Down Syndrome, a challenge that could have dampened her spirit. But Carol, much like Kartini, faces life head-on, challenging stigmas and advocating for her son's place in the world just as fiercely as any other parent would.
I hope Carol's story, much like Kartini's, inspires you. It's a testament to the strength found in the hearts of women everywhere, pushing forward, breaking barriers, and creating a world where every child can dream big, regardless of the challenges they face.
1. Please help me to introduce yourself
My name is Carol Pigozzo. I'm a 42-year-old Brazilian, married for 28 years, and mother to two boys: Dimitri, 12, and Noah, 8. I pride myself on being well-organized and cherish spending as much time with my family as possible.
2. Can you share with us a bit about your journey from Brazil to Singapore and how you've adjusted to life in a new country?And what do you enjoy most about living here?
We relocated to Singapore due to a career opportunity for my husband. The move required significant adjustments, including finding schools for the kids, arranging therapies, and navigating a new language and culture. Living on the other side of the globe presents challenges, like adapting to different customs and languages, but we've taken it one step at a time. The safety of Singapore is a highlight for us, providing a secure environment to raise our children.
3. Can you share with us a significant turning point or moment in your life that has shaped who you are today?
The birth of our second son, Noah, who has Down Syndrome, was a pivotal moment for us. Initially, we were apprehensive, lacking knowledge about Down Syndrome and the challenges it might bring. However, Noah has taught us so much, completing our family in a way we never anticipated. His presence has highlighted a general lack of understanding about diversity, motivating me to promote acceptance and inclusivity.
4. How has motherhood changed or influenced your life since having your two sons?
Ever since I was a child, I dreamed of being a full-time mother. When Dimitri was born, I felt fulfilled and grateful to leave my job to focus on motherhood. For the past 12 years, I've dedicated myself entirely to raising my children, a role that brings me immense joy and satisfaction.
5. How have the cultural differences between Brazil and Singapore influenced your parenting style and approach?
The cultural differences between Brazil and Singapore are vast, but we explain them to our children in a simple, positive manner. We emphasize that despite these differences, love and care can be expressed in various ways. While Brazilians are openly affectionate, such expressions are less common in Singapore, so we maintain a warm and open atmosphere at home.
6. Can you share some specific cultural practices or traditions from Brazil that you've incorporated into raising your children in Singapore?
We've made a conscious effort to keep our passion for football alive, supporting our favorite Brazilian team, Corinthians, and catching their matches whenever possible, despite the 11-hour time difference. Barbecues, pool days, and beach outings are other activities we've continued to enjoy in Singapore.
7. Conversely, are there any aspects of Asian culture or parenting norms that have surprised you or that you've found particularly beneficial?
In Singapore, I've noticed fewer Special Needs individuals in public places like malls and restaurants. Despite this, I perceive Singapore as an inclusive country, which is reassuring.
8. How do you navigate discussions about diversity and inclusion with your children?
Open dialogue is a cornerstone of our family, especially regarding inclusion since Noah's birth. We focus on recognizing everyone's potential and celebrating achievements, fostering an environment of success and understanding.
9. What advice would you give to other parents navigating the complexities of raising multicultural children?
We've taught our children to accept and adapt to challenges without being overwhelmed by them. If moving at a significant age, we explain the educational challenges and assure them that our support is based on effort, not just grades. Ensuring their security and understanding during this adaptation period is crucial, emphasizing the importance of education as they start anew.
10. What are some of your dreams and aspirations for your children's future?
My aspirations for my children aren't career-oriented but focus on their character. I hope they grow up to be empathetic individuals, a trait I believe is essential for success and happiness wherever life takes them.
As we reflect on the stories of both Kartini and Carol, we are reminded of the enduring strength and resilience that women possess, no matter the eras they live in. Carol’s journey from Brazil to Singapore, and her advocacy for her son and inclusivity, mirrors the pioneering spirit of Kartini, who long ago fought for women’s rights and education in Indonesia. Their stories remind us that we still have a long way to go and that we must continue advocating for a better world, not just for ourselves but for the future of our children.
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